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Harshly judgemental on yourself at work?

How do you normally react to stress?

Can you be harshly judgemental on yourself at work?

Most people I meet in organisations are incredibly hard on themselves especially when things go wrong or they make a mistake. They tell me that they speak to themselves in a way in which they would never speak to another person.

“What wrong with me? How do I always make a mess? What a disaster I am!”

Harshly judgemental on yourself at work?Harshly judgemental on yourself at work

What is your typical pattern when you are under pressure?

If you have a tendency towards critical self-talk and harsh judgment, do you find it sabotages you and makes the situation and your day more difficult?

You undermine yourself and create a self fulfilling prophesy.

Is there another way? instead of harshly judgemental on yourself at work?

What would it be like if you took a moment to calm yourself and support yourself in those stressful situations. Isn’t that what you would do for a friend in the same situation? For no other reason, except that she/he was in difficulty and felt bad. Would this not be a more intelligent and helpful response?

Useful coping mechanisms when challenged at work…

Harshly judgemental on yourself at work

  1.    Breathe consciously to self calm, pause and take a step back
  2.    Get grounded, move attention to feeling your feet on the ground (like magnets)
  3.    Check in, notice your experience, take responsibility for self
  4.    Notice how you are relating to yourself. Let go of any criticism and see if you can
    –   Soften your body & sooth yourself “Phew, this is hard. How can I help myself now?”
    as you continue to breath with awareness and ground yourself in your body.

Why is there so much anxiety and stress at work?

The truth is that work-life has become increasingly pressured, fast paced with constant distractions.

We are trying to run faster, to ‘get more done’ and have less downtime to just stop and relax. People who are constantly checking phones and social media have been shown to be more prone to stress, sleeping problems and anxiety. 

That’s why Harvard Business Review say:

Mindfulness should no longer be considered a‘nice to have’ for executives.
It’s a ‘must have’: a way to keep our brains healthy, to support self regulation and effective decision making capabilities, and to protect ourselves from toxic stress.

Mindfulness Training teaches participants skills so that people can focus attention and work effectively even in challenging environments without stress and anxiety. That’s why progressive businesses are implementing programmes and reducing absenteeism, staff turnover and improving communication and ultimately success.

Interested in learning more, why not get in touch?

or Check out our Mindfulness at Work Courses, or Workplace Wellness Talks

where participants learn to develop new skills and habits of dealing with stress and challenge.

What people say…

“Joanne delivered a half day introductory, Mindfulness at Work training in our office to a group of 13 people. It was a really interesting session where even the sceptics in the group came away with learnings they can use in their personal and professional relationships. An excellent training for any individuals or groups working in a fast paced environment. Joanne will give you tips and exercises on how you can manage stress and focus better. Highly recommended! Thank you Joanne”

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This blog was written by Joanne O’Malley, Mindfulness at Work




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